Veterans Must Tell Their Story

I often wear my Desert Storm hat in public because I am proud to be a veteran. I love for other veterans to come up to me and tell me their story, and all veterans have them. Some stories are funny, some are serious and others are downright bothersome. On occasion, a civilian will come up and thank me, but usually it is a veteran who thanks me for my service. I was not prepared for what happened last week at a local restaurant. A young man who appeared to be about 10 years old came up to me, shook my hand and thanked me for my service. He was followed by his younger sister who did the same. Their dad had a huge smile on his face and said, “I am trying to raise them right” I shook his hand, and thanked him. I assumed he was a veteran or in the military because of his haircut. He told me he was a law enforcement officer. I can honestly say I was impressed. Of all the people that have thanked me these children moved me the most. At times, we write off the newer generations but they usually come through.

Since the most recent wars started in 2001 the country has seen a significant increase in patriotism that most veterans did not expect. Before the most recent wars it was unusual to see a Vietnam veteran hat anywhere, now you constantly see them. I believe our society feels some guilt for the way we treated the Vietnam veterans, as they should. Between the Vietnam Veterans and societal guilt our veterans are getting the recognition they deserve. Some struggle with their time in service and feel it is too much recognition. Most of them don’t wear the hats or shirts, they set quietly in their corner because they are struggling or feel they are boasting if they bring attention to themselves. For the most part if they are wearing a hat or shirt stating they are a veteran it is ok to thank them because they are opening the conversation by wearing their military veteran clothing. But veterans are disappearing. A 2014 survey indicated there were 19.3 million military veterans, of which 9.4 million are over 65 years old and only 1.7 million are younger than 35. With the estimated suicide rate of 20 veterans a day committing suicide more than 69% of veteran suicides are among those age 50 years and older.

We also have the least number of veterans serving in congress in our nation’s history. In the house of representatives 90 of 435 seats are filled with veterans, in the senate 26 of the 100 seats are veterans. Less than 22% of those serving in congress are veterans. This number will more than likely continue to decline because of the amount of money it takes to run for a seat, most military veterans do not come from wealthy families with the money needed to run for the Senate or House. If the younger generations do not understand what veterans have done in the past they will be lacking information for the future, we need to let them know the sacrifices veterans have made. 

I challenge every veteran to spend more time telling their stories to children in their family. If you get the opportunity go to a school and volunteer to tell your story to a history class. We don’t need to get into the details, just discuss what you have done for your country and how you fought for the freedoms they have. The younger generation will be playing a part in who will be controlling the conversation in the future. As they age we need them to continue to fight for our promised benefits. They will be the ones who drive the discussion in the future concerning the Veterans Administration and will be setting the funding. If they do not know what has been sacrificed they might feel the need to stand by because they don’t understand. It is our job to help them understand. Since only 7 % of the population has ever served, only 1% have served since 2001 it is imperative that we tell the younger generation our stories. Keep our history alive to help prevent history from repeating itself. It’s also important for future VA funding. Please get involved in telling your story. The library of Congress has a program called the Veterans History Project. Please consider it and tell your story, veterans future might depend on it. If there are more children like the ones that approached me last week we stand a chance to get the benefits we have earned.

For questions or comments, I can be reached at afterdutyvets@gmail.com or visit our website at marriedtoptsdpro.com and like us on Facebook at Married to PTSD Pro.

Veterans Spouses Need to Tell Their Stories

So often the spouses of veterans struggle to keep their lives together because of problems their veteran faces. These spouses deal with their veterans needs with little to no fanfare or appreciation. These spouses forgo their needs to tend to the needs of the veteran. Anyone who has been in the military understands that they are different. Those who live with veterans know that veterans have quirks others don’t have. No one who goes in the military comes out the same. These differences carry forward with the veteran after their service is completed and passes down to the families which can be a good or bad depending on the situation.

Living with veterans daily can be difficult, veterans can be stubborn. A veteran's needs can be different from civilians. Whether it's being on time, awareness of their surroundings, and being aware of where they are sitting in a restaurant can become a problem. Veterans do not like to sit with their back to the door so they can be aware of their surroundings. This can appear odd if you don’t know why they insist on sitting with their backs to the wall. Sitting in the middle of a crowded room is uncomfortable for veterans, they feel too vulnerable.

Some spouses are dealing with veterans who have mental and physical disabilities that become a part of their lives. These disabilities can lead to a hard and frustrating life for the whole family. Some spouses struggle to make tough decisions concerning the commitment to their relationships. For so many spouses it would be easier to walk away and not have to deal with the issues the military brought into their lives. Many veteran spouses stay in their relationships to their detriment because of loyalty, love, and living out the “for better or worse commitment” they made when they married.

Spouses who live with a veteran who has a physical disability struggle as they both age. Often the physical disabilities create a problem for the spouse because of their inability to physically do what is needed concerning the physical ailments of the veteran. The mental health aspect of veterans can linger for years and be torturous for a life time for spouses. Seeing your loved one struggle with mental health issues and not having the ability to help causes its own stress and frustration. Spouses struggle to understand why their loved ones are acting the way they do because of posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), anxiety, Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), or a multitude of other mental health issues brought on by military service. Some spouses must deal with both the physical and mental aspects of their veteran’s issues, when spouses reach out for help, usually to the VA, they hit a huge frustrating bureaucracy.   

Dealing with the VA is one of the most frustrating things any veteran or their spouse can deal with. I would say dealing with the VA is more frustrating for spouses because they don't have a lot of say on how their veteran is treated. Often regulations set by congress limit the amount of help the VA can give spouses. When it comes to mental health issues, especially PTSD, a spouse has little say in treatment. If a spouse of a veteran with PTSD goes to the VA and says, “you diagnosed my husband with PTSD and I need help, can you help me?”, the VA will tell them “no” unless the veteran is receiving treatment for PTSD themselves. It is well known veterans won't seek treatment because of the stigma and the perception the VA will just throw drugs at them and not deal with their issues. By the veteran not getting help with their PTSD it places their spouse in a tough situation. So often spouses feel they can’t stay in the relationship for their own sanity and they can’t go because they love and are committed to their relationship. What society needs to know is these spouses are taking on their burden by tending to these disabled veterans at no cost to society and a huge cost to their physical and mental wellbeing. Funding to provide spouses help for caring of disabled veterans should be a cost of war. That's why spouses need to speak up and tell their stories so they can get the help they deserve.

Spouses are the unseen heroes of the veteran community. Veterans spouses save the federal government billions of dollars by providing services that the VA and society should be paying for. Our society expects these spouses to be the good soldier and keep doing what they're doing even if it is hindrance to their health. These spouses need to start telling their stories so society can see what they're giving to the country. Without their voice, they’re taken for granted by society, the VA, and family members. I encourage spouses to speak up and tell their stories so they can get their just due and be labeled the heroes that they are.

For questions or comments, I can be reached at afterdutyvets@gmail.com or visit our website at marriedtoptsdpro.com for tips on how to navigate the VA system and make your VA experience healthier and less frustrating. Like us on Facebook at Married to PTSD Pro.

For local mental health counseling for spouses you can call

Victor Community Support Services

(Military Family Program)

222 East Main St

Barstow, Ca. 92311

(760) 255-1496

 www.victor.org

Christian Counseling Services (CCS)

(Military Family Program)

205 E. State Street

Redlands, CA 92373

909-793-1078

www.ccs-cares.org

Veterans Must Tell Their Story

I often wear my Desert Storm hat in public because I am proud to be a veteran. I love for other veterans to come up to me and tell me their story, and all veterans have them. Some stories are funny, some are serious and others are downright bothersome. On occasion, a civilian will come up and thank me, but usually it is a veteran who thanks me for my service. I was not prepared for what happened last week at a local restaurant. A young man who appeared to be about 10 years old came up to me, shook my hand and thanked me for my service. He was followed by his younger sister who did the same. Their dad had a huge smile on his face and said, “I am trying to raise them right” I shook his hand, and thanked him. I assumed he was a veteran or in the military because of his haircut. He told me he was a law enforcement officer. I can honestly say I was impressed. Of all the people that have thanked me these children moved me the most. At times, we write off the newer generations but they usually come through.

Since the most recent wars started in 2001 the country has seen a significant increase in patriotism that most veterans did not expect. Before the most recent wars it was unusual to see a Vietnam veteran hat anywhere, now you constantly see them. I believe our society feels some guilt for the way we treated the Vietnam veterans, as they should. Between the Vietnam Veterans and societal guilt our veterans are getting the recognition they deserve. Some struggle with their time in service and feel it is too much recognition. Most of them don’t wear the hats or shirts, they set quietly in their corner because they are struggling or feel they are boasting if they bring attention to themselves. For the most part if they are wearing a hat or shirt stating they are a veteran it is ok to thank them because they are opening the conversation by wearing their military veteran clothing. But veterans are disappearing. A 2014 survey indicated there were 19.3 million military veterans, of which 9.4 million are over 65 years old and only 1.7 million are younger than 35. With the estimated suicide rate of 20 veterans a day committing suicide more than 69% of veteran suicides are among those age 50 years and older.

We also have the least number of veterans serving in congress in our nation’s history. In the house of representatives 90 of 435 seats are filled with veterans, in the senate 26 of the 100 seats are veterans. Less than 22% of those serving in congress are veterans. This number will more than likely continue to decline because of the amount of money it takes to run for a seat, most military veterans do not come from wealthy families with the money needed to run for the Senate or House. If the younger generations do not understand what veterans have done in the past they will be lacking information for the future, we need to let them know the sacrifices veterans have made. 

I challenge every veteran to spend more time telling their stories to children in their family. If you get the opportunity go to a school and volunteer to tell your story to a history class. We don’t need to get into the details, just discuss what you have done for your country and how you fought for the freedoms they have. The younger generation will be playing a part in who will be controlling the conversation in the future. As they age we need them to continue to fight for our promised benefits. They will be the ones who drive the discussion in the future concerning the Veterans Administration and will be setting the funding. If they do not know what has been sacrificed they might feel the need to stand by because they don’t understand. It is our job to help them understand. Since only 7 % of the population has ever served, only 1% have served since 2001 it is imperative that we tell the younger generation our stories. Keep our history alive to help prevent history from repeating itself. It’s also important for future VA funding. Please get involved in telling your story. The library of Congress has a program called the Veterans History Project. Please consider it and tell your story, veterans future might depend on it. If there are more children like the ones that approached me last week we stand a chance to get the benefits we have earned.

For questions or comments, I can be reached at afterdutyvets@gmail.com or visit our website at marriedtoptsdpro.com and like us on Facebook at Married to PTSD Pro.

Veterans Spouses Need to Tell Their Stories

So often the spouses of veterans struggle to keep their lives together because of problems their veteran faces. These spouses deal with their veterans needs with little to no fanfare or appreciation. These spouses forgo their needs to tend to the needs of the veteran. Anyone who has been in the military understands that they are different. Those who live with veterans know that veterans have quirks others don’t have. No one who goes in the military comes out the same. These differences carry forward with the veteran after their service is completed and passes down to the families which can be a good or bad depending on the situation.

Living with veterans daily can be difficult, veterans can be stubborn. A veteran's needs can be different from civilians. Whether it's being on time, awareness of their surroundings, and being aware of where they are sitting in a restaurant can become a problem. Veterans do not like to sit with their back to the door so they can be aware of their surroundings. This can appear odd if you don’t know why they insist on sitting with their backs to the wall. Sitting in the middle of a crowded room is uncomfortable for veterans, they feel too vulnerable.

Some spouses are dealing with veterans who have mental and physical disabilities that become a part of their lives. These disabilities can lead to a hard and frustrating life for the whole family. Some spouses struggle to make tough decisions concerning the commitment to their relationships. For so many spouses it would be easier to walk away and not have to deal with the issues the military brought into their lives. Many veteran spouses stay in their relationships to their detriment because of loyalty, love, and living out the “for better or worse commitment” they made when they married.

Spouses who live with a veteran who has a physical disability struggle as they both age. Often the physical disabilities create a problem for the spouse because of their inability to physically do what is needed concerning the physical ailments of the veteran. The mental health aspect of veterans can linger for years and be torturous for a life time for spouses. Seeing your loved one struggle with mental health issues and not having the ability to help causes its own stress and frustration. Spouses struggle to understand why their loved ones are acting the way they do because of posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), anxiety, Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), or a multitude of other mental health issues brought on by military service. Some spouses must deal with both the physical and mental aspects of their veteran’s issues, when spouses reach out for help, usually to the VA, they hit a huge frustrating bureaucracy.   

Dealing with the VA is one of the most frustrating things any veteran or their spouse can deal with. I would say dealing with the VA is more frustrating for spouses because they don't have a lot of say on how their veteran is treated. Often regulations set by congress limit the amount of help the VA can give spouses. When it comes to mental health issues, especially PTSD, a spouse has little say in treatment. If a spouse of a veteran with PTSD goes to the VA and says, “you diagnosed my husband with PTSD and I need help, can you help me?”, the VA will tell them “no” unless the veteran is receiving treatment for PTSD themselves. It is well known veterans won't seek treatment because of the stigma and the perception the VA will just throw drugs at them and not deal with their issues. By the veteran not getting help with their PTSD it places their spouse in a tough situation. So often spouses feel they can’t stay in the relationship for their own sanity and they can’t go because they love and are committed to their relationship. What society needs to know is these spouses are taking on their burden by tending to these disabled veterans at no cost to society and a huge cost to their physical and mental wellbeing. Funding to provide spouses help for caring of disabled veterans should be a cost of war. That's why spouses need to speak up and tell their stories so they can get the help they deserve.

Spouses are the unseen heroes of the veteran community. Veterans spouses save the federal government billions of dollars by providing services that the VA and society should be paying for. Our society expects these spouses to be the good soldier and keep doing what they're doing even if it is hindrance to their health. These spouses need to start telling their stories so society can see what they're giving to the country. Without their voice, they’re taken for granted by society, the VA, and family members. I encourage spouses to speak up and tell their stories so they can get their just due and be labeled the heroes that they are.

For questions or comments, I can be reached at afterdutyvets@gmail.com or visit our website at marriedtoptsdpro.com for tips on how to navigate the VA system and make your VA experience healthier and less frustrating. Like us on Facebook at Married to PTSD Pro.

For local mental health counseling for spouses you can call

Victor Community Support Services

(Military Family Program)

222 East Main St

Barstow, Ca. 92311

(760) 255-1496

 www.victor.org

Christian Counseling Services (CCS)

(Military Family Program)

205 E. State Street

Redlands, CA 92373

909-793-1078

www.ccs-cares.org

Veterans Must Tell Their Story

I often wear my Desert Storm hat in public because I am proud to be a veteran. I love for other veterans to come up to me and tell me their story, and all veterans have them. Some stories are funny, some are serious and others are downright bothersome. On occasion, a civilian will come up and thank me, but usually it is a veteran who thanks me for my service. I was not prepared for what happened last week at a local restaurant. A young man who appeared to be about 10 years old came up to me, shook my hand and thanked me for my service. He was followed by his younger sister who did the same. Their dad had a huge smile on his face and said, “I am trying to raise them right” I shook his hand, and thanked him. I assumed he was a veteran or in the military because of his haircut. He told me he was a law enforcement officer. I can honestly say I was impressed. Of all the people that have thanked me these children moved me the most. At times, we write off the newer generations but they usually come through.

Since the most recent wars started in 2001 the country has seen a significant increase in patriotism that most veterans did not expect. Before the most recent wars it was unusual to see a Vietnam veteran hat anywhere, now you constantly see them. I believe our society feels some guilt for the way we treated the Vietnam veterans, as they should. Between the Vietnam Veterans and societal guilt our veterans are getting the recognition they deserve. Some struggle with their time in service and feel it is too much recognition. Most of them don’t wear the hats or shirts, they set quietly in their corner because they are struggling or feel they are boasting if they bring attention to themselves. For the most part if they are wearing a hat or shirt stating they are a veteran it is ok to thank them because they are opening the conversation by wearing their military veteran clothing. But veterans are disappearing. A 2014 survey indicated there were 19.3 million military veterans, of which 9.4 million are over 65 years old and only 1.7 million are younger than 35. With the estimated suicide rate of 20 veterans a day committing suicide more than 69% of veteran suicides are among those age 50 years and older.

We also have the least number of veterans serving in congress in our nation’s history. In the house of representatives 90 of 435 seats are filled with veterans, in the senate 26 of the 100 seats are veterans. Less than 22% of those serving in congress are veterans. This number will more than likely continue to decline because of the amount of money it takes to run for a seat, most military veterans do not come from wealthy families with the money needed to run for the Senate or House. If the younger generations do not understand what veterans have done in the past they will be lacking information for the future, we need to let them know the sacrifices veterans have made. 

I challenge every veteran to spend more time telling their stories to children in their family. If you get the opportunity go to a school and volunteer to tell your story to a history class. We don’t need to get into the details, just discuss what you have done for your country and how you fought for the freedoms they have. The younger generation will be playing a part in who will be controlling the conversation in the future. As they age we need them to continue to fight for our promised benefits. They will be the ones who drive the discussion in the future concerning the Veterans Administration and will be setting the funding. If they do not know what has been sacrificed they might feel the need to stand by because they don’t understand. It is our job to help them understand. Since only 7 % of the population has ever served, only 1% have served since 2001 it is imperative that we tell the younger generation our stories. Keep our history alive to help prevent history from repeating itself. It’s also important for future VA funding. Please get involved in telling your story. The library of Congress has a program called the Veterans History Project. Please consider it and tell your story, veterans future might depend on it. If there are more children like the ones that approached me last week we stand a chance to get the benefits we have earned.

For questions or comments, I can be reached at afterdutyvets@gmail.com or visit our website at marriedtoptsdpro.com and like us on Facebook at Married to PTSD Pro.

What Has Happened to My Tri-Care

When I retired from the Air Force in 2004 I was excited. I did not need a job that required medical insurance for my family and myself. I had Tri-Care, at the time one of the best insurance policies you could have. The 20 years I spent in the Air Force and having medical insurance allowed us to have our own business. I tell people all the time, I did what I had to, 20 years in the Air Force, so I could do what I wanted to when I retired from the Air Force. I decided after retirement that I wanted to go to college, get my degree, and become a licensed mental health clinician to help veterans and their families work through their issues brought on by their service to our country. Because of being retired from the USAF and earning Tri-Care, my wife who is a licensed psychologist and veteran also, have succeeded in reaching our goals of having our own business as mental health professionals.  

As we all know, a 20-year Non-Commissioned Officer’s (NCO) retirement does not allow someone to make a living. The reasons I became a licensed mental health therapist was to help veterans who slip through the cracks in the Veterans Administration (VA) mental health system, and take Tri-Care insurance to help Active Duty, veterans, and their families who are struggling. What I found when researching the possibility of taking Tri-Care is how much they have changed since I retired in 2004. They are not the Tri-Care I retired with, it appears they have changed, but not for the better. There are multiple doctors that have stopped taking Tri-Care because of low rates and slow payments. I understand, it’s hard to run a business with the “check in the mail” and not in the bank.   

As I was doing research I discovered Tri-Care is pressuring its mental health professionals to take a 30% cut in their pay. Tri-care payments to providers were already lower than most insurance companies and now they want to pay less. After considering taking Tri-Care we found they limit the number of mental health providers in areas. This appears to limit the usage of benefits by veterans and their families to improve their profits. This is going to limit the amount of mental health professionals, including my wife and I, who accept tri-care insurance even if we could get on their list of providers and agree to less compensation.

One thing Obamacare showed us is that insurances are not going to forsake their profits for someone’s life and health. There are no government “death panels” as suggested, however, there appears to be quasi-death panel by the insurance companies. People did not want the government to make life and death decisions, but it appears the profit driven insurance companies are by limiting care for the sake of profit.

With limiting access to mental health services Tri-care is not helping the veteran suicide rate everyone appears to be upset about. I am concerned about Tri-Care benefits because it effects my military family who has served with distinction. If a psychologist or mental health professional quits Tri-Care, which I cannot blame them, will the veteran need to get another mental health professional who is less qualified and willing to take a 30% cut in compensation? It is difficult enough for mental health professionals to build a rapport with veterans and their families. Mental health professionals are not interchangeable like surgical doctors are, once someone steps outside their comfort zone to get mental health services, changing clinicians is a set back to the client and often ends up creating a larger issue for them. Is that what you want in a therapist? someone who is the “lowest bidder”, most veterans have seen the quality of the lowest bidder’s product while serving, veterans and their families deserve better.

I have already seen where Tri-Care has stepped outside the mental health field to get their needs met for psychotropic medications. In one case Tri-Care has listed a pediatrician on their webpage as a psychiatrist. A pediatrician is not qualified to make decisions for mental health patients. For those who don’t know a psychiatrist is a medical doctor with an extra 2 years of mental health studies. Is this their new attitude, accept unqualified doctors to meet their needs because they can pay them less? A mental health career is tough enough already, for Tri-care to be cutting clinicians fees is unacceptable. Mental health professionals are already paid less than most other professionals. Cutting their compensation creates a lot of issues and don’t help. We all know what the suicide rate is for veterans, this is another slap in the face to those who can help prevent veteran’s suicides to save money and grow profits. We have earned and deserve better!

For questions or comments, I can be reached at afterdutyvets@gmail.com or visit our website at marriedtoptsdpro.com and like us on Facebook at Married to PTSD Pro.

To make a mental health appointment we can be contacted at

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Veterans Spouses Need to Tell Their Stories

So often the spouses of veterans struggle to keep their lives together because of problems their veteran faces. These spouses deal with their veterans needs with little to no fanfare or appreciation. These spouses forgo their needs to tend to the needs of the veteran. Anyone who has been in the military understands that they are different. Those who live with veterans know that veterans have quirks others don’t have. No one who goes in the military comes out the same. These differences carry forward with the veteran after their service is completed and passes down to the families which can be a good or bad depending on the situation.

Living with veterans daily can be difficult, veterans can be stubborn. A veteran's needs can be different from civilians. Whether it's being on time, awareness of their surroundings, and being aware of where they are sitting in a restaurant can become a problem. Veterans do not like to sit with their back to the door so they can be aware of their surroundings. This can appear odd if you don’t know why they insist on sitting with their backs to the wall. Sitting in the middle of a crowded room is uncomfortable for veterans, they feel too vulnerable.

Some spouses are dealing with veterans who have mental and physical disabilities that become a part of their lives. These disabilities can lead to a hard and frustrating life for the whole family. Some spouses struggle to make tough decisions concerning the commitment to their relationships. For so many spouses it would be easier to walk away and not have to deal with the issues the military brought into their lives. Many veteran spouses stay in their relationships to their detriment because of loyalty, love, and living out the “for better or worse commitment” they made when they married.

Spouses who live with a veteran who has a physical disability struggle as they both age. Often the physical disabilities create a problem for the spouse because of their inability to physically do what is needed concerning the physical ailments of the veteran. The mental health aspect of veterans can linger for years and be torturous for a life time for spouses. Seeing your loved one struggle with mental health issues and not having the ability to help causes its own stress and frustration. Spouses struggle to understand why their loved ones are acting the way they do because of posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), anxiety, Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), or a multitude of other mental health issues brought on by military service. Some spouses must deal with both the physical and mental aspects of their veteran’s issues, when spouses reach out for help, usually to the VA, they hit a huge frustrating bureaucracy.   

Dealing with the VA is one of the most frustrating things any veteran or their spouse can deal with. I would say dealing with the VA is more frustrating for spouses because they don't have a lot of say on how their veteran is treated. Often regulations set by congress limit the amount of help the VA can give spouses. When it comes to mental health issues, especially PTSD, a spouse has little say in treatment. If a spouse of a veteran with PTSD goes to the VA and says, “you diagnosed my husband with PTSD and I need help, can you help me?”, the VA will tell them “no” unless the veteran is receiving treatment for PTSD themselves. It is well known veterans won't seek treatment because of the stigma and the perception the VA will just throw drugs at them and not deal with their issues. By the veteran not getting help with their PTSD it places their spouse in a tough situation. So often spouses feel they can’t stay in the relationship for their own sanity and they can’t go because they love and are committed to their relationship. What society needs to know is these spouses are taking on their burden by tending to these disabled veterans at no cost to society and a huge cost to their physical and mental wellbeing. Funding to provide spouses help for caring of disabled veterans should be a cost of war. That's why spouses need to speak up and tell their stories so they can get the help they deserve.

Spouses are the unseen heroes of the veteran community. Veterans spouses save the federal government billions of dollars by providing services that the VA and society should be paying for. Our society expects these spouses to be the good soldier and keep doing what they're doing even if it is hindrance to their health. These spouses need to start telling their stories so society can see what they're giving to the country. Without their voice, they’re taken for granted by society, the VA, and family members. I encourage spouses to speak up and tell their stories so they can get their just due and be labeled the heroes that they are.

For questions or comments, I can be reached at afterdutyvets@gmail.com or visit our website at marriedtoptsdpro.com for tips on how to navigate the VA system and make your VA experience healthier and less frustrating. Like us on Facebook at Married to PTSD Pro.

For local mental health counseling for spouses you can call

Victor Community Support Services

(Military Family Program)

222 East Main St

Barstow, Ca. 92311

(760) 255-1496

 www.victor.org

Christian Counseling Services (CCS)

(Military Family Program)

205 E. State Street

Redlands, CA 92373

909-793-1078

www.ccs-cares.org